Todays post comes from a conversation i had recently with a single female friend. We spoke about how having been out of the game for a while, the thought of dating again is scary. Things have changed out there and there is a chance we could mess it up.
So what about a Training Boyfriend / Girlfriend concept? (Apologies if this already exists, in which case skip the post, there will be nothing to see here!)
When you were younger and learning to ride a bike, you may have had stabalisers on your bike. Littel training wheels that allowed you to get the feeling of cycling with an added safety net that it was hard to fall over. What if there was a way that you could get back in the dating game with the help of a friend of the opposite sex, who was there to show you what to do and more importantly what not to do.
You see, I know that if I did start dating again, If I really liked the person i had met, then I might go all Bernard Black on her.
Or I may decide to act all aloof and nasty (that’s what girls want right?).
Either way this could be avoided if I could go out for a date with a female friend. not as friends but as a training date – you would both have to agree this beforehand.
You could learn from the wisdom and advice of your training partner and not be as scared and nervous when you eventually go on a date.
Now I am obviously not talking about the physical side, if you are unsure about that, then this is not going to help you. Just two friends that for a night are strangers and learn to get along. At the end of the night, the friendship returns and you take your notes home and learn.
I can almost hear you thinking “Aye right Laird, this is just a scam to get dates without the embarrassment of asking someone”. It really isn’t, it is a semi serious idea that has been hanging around my brain for a while. It probably would not work at all. I do not think this could be done with strangers either as that could accidentally turn into a real date, which may be great or not but friends would be honest with you. That’s the key. If no-one tells you that your playbook is wrong, then you are going to go back to it time and time again.
( and yes that clip is about the physical side but the point is the same)
So what do you think? Good Idea? Stupid Idea? Interesting idea but needs work?
Let me know